The Secret To Meeting More Women

Does this sound familiar to you?

You head out with some friends to a club or bar, eager to meet a girl to have some fun with.  You get to the bar, get a table, and order drinks.  The place is bumpin, and you and your friends are having a great time looking at all the hot women... however, nobody is approaching any them.  You want to talk to them, but you feel more at home sitting around with your buddies chatting about how you would like to go home with a girl that night.  Inevitably, you all end up leaving the same way you came in - together.

This is a fairly common instance among your average joe.

This is a indicator of the dreaded "comfort zone."

Essentially, everyone has a comfort zone.  This is a state of mind where people are surrounded by that which is familiar.  Familiarity breeds complacency, which can hinder you from taking the action required to achieve your goals, because that action introduces uncertainty into your life - something the comfort zone likes to avoid.

In order to meet a woman, you have to know how to break out of this state of complacency.  

That’s all well and good, but how do you do that you ask?  

The answer is obvious:  You must learn to meet women by yourself!

Friends can be helpful and an asset, but more often than not, going out with friends actually hinders your ability to meet women.  Not just because of the comfort zone factor, but because other guys who don't know what they're doing with girls can actually destroy the interactions you have with them - be it by envy or incompetence.  So the best way to counter this is to leave your friends behind.

However, the idea of going out by oneself can strike fear into the hearts of men.  After all, doesn't going out by yourself indicate to everyone that you're a dork with no friends?  Doesn't it make you look weird or creepy?

The answer to both these questions is:

NO!!!!!

Just the act of going out on your own can rock your comfort zone, because you have no anchors to keep you there.  Frequently your friends will act as an anchor to your comfort zone that will hinder you from talking with women.  The fact is, it is easier to break out of this comfort zone without those anchors holding you back.  As a bonus, you don't have to worry about failing with women and being judged by your friends if they're not around.

In fact, the most powerful thing about going out by yourself is that it puts your focus on what you are doing.  This means that every interaction you have is without interruption, so it is more easily examined and the problems you had are more easily recognized.  This allows you to spot your sticking points more quickly and correct them.

On top of that, being out by yourself gives you the freedom of flexibility when it comes to the venues you’re going to and the people you talk to.  If you're bored with a certain club, you can leave and go to another one.  If you want to talk to a girl who your friends might harass you about, you can.  Not only this, but you're free to screw up the interactions you have, because chances are, no one there will ever see you again, so you don't have to worry about what others think of you.

But like all things, knowing what to say will help you to go out by yourself and succeed at increasing your ability to approach.  There are many examples of Openers to say in my book The Art of Attraction, but some guys will need to know how to handle the expected question "Where are your friends?"

Often I will reply with something like: "Oh, they're around."  This simple dismissive statement not only answers the question, but as far as anyone knows, you're telling the truth.

If you want to take it a step further, I've even used this as an Opener at times I've been out by myself.

The "My Friends Ditched Me" Opener

This works well whenever you're out by yourself.  Essentially, you approach your target or a group, and say:

"Hey guys, you won't believe this.  All week, me and my friends have been planning on going out and having a good time, because we've all been busy and we wanted to kick back and have some fun.  So we made plans to go out tonight, right?  Well, one by one they call up and say stuff like "I'm too tired," or "My girlfriend wants to watch a movie," and stuff like that.  Some friends huh?  Bunch of lame-o's.  But I'm thinking there might be something more to this, because last week two of my friends had a knock-down drag out fight over some girl they both like, so the situation is all weird.  Do you guys have any friends who got split up by someone they both liked?"


Using this, you set the stage that you're out by yourself because, well, unlike your friends, you’re not a loser!  Not only that, you throw in a nice Drama Opener in there to engage the group.

And if you're still too shy to go out by yourself, then try this little trick:

When you go out with your friends – ditch them.  Take off on your own and leave them behind for a while, then meet up with them later.  This can be quite an effective method if your friends don't mind you leaving!

If you don't know what a Drama Opener is, check it out in my book The Art of Approaching.  It's got TONS of openers and other things to say so that you never have to worry about how you're going to meet women again.  If you're one of those guys who gets tounge-tied around beautiful girls, or if your mind likes to "blank" out on you, then you definitely need to check out my book right now by clicking below:

Once you learn the secrets I unleash in my book, you'll know how to meet any woman, any time, anywhere you may be -- whether you're alone or not!

All the best,

Thundercat

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